Pleasure is personal — and sex toys can be powerful tools for self-connection, healing, and deeper intimacy. For decades, sex toys were whispered about in hushed tones or hidden in the back of adult stores. But today, they’re mainstream — used by millions of people (and recommended by therapists like me) as powerful tools for pleasure, connection, and even healing. Now if you’re reading this, you might know me as a sex and relationship therapist — but what you might not know

When sex starts feeling like another task on the list, it’s usually a sign of deeper emotional or relational disconnect. You’re not broken. You’re human. If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking, “Ugh, do we have to?”  when your partner initiates sex, you’re not alone. So many couples hit this point — where intimacy starts feeling like another task on an already packed to-do list. And it’s not because something is wrong  with you or your relationship. It’s because desire, conn

When arousal doesn’t go as expected, it can bring shame or worry—but it doesn’t have to. How you respond in that moment can deepen trust and connection. When sex doesn’t go according to plan, it can feel awkward, confusing, or even triggering. One of the most common examples I see in my practice as a sex therapist is when a partner loses their erection during sex. In that moment, both people often freeze — unsure of what to say, what it means, or what to do next. The truth? I

Struggling to keep the spark alive in your long-term relationship? Learn why sexual desire naturally changes over time and discover practical, research-backed ways to reignite passion. This guide explores Esther Perel’s “paradox of desire,” spontaneous vs. responsive desire, and the dual-control model to help you and your partner sustain intimacy, connection, and pleasure for years to come.

Think No Nut November boosts focus or testosterone? Research says otherwise. Here’s what the science really shows about abstinence, masturbation, and sexual health.

Struggling with low libido? Learn how emotional disconnection—not hormones alone—shapes desire and intimacy. Discover tools to reignite connection.

When people think about sex, they often focus on foreplay, pleasure, or the act itself. But what happens afterward can be just as important—sometimes even more so. Sexual aftercare, or the intentional care partners give one another following intimacy, plays a powerful role in building trust, fostering emotional closeness, and healing from past wounds. It can be as simple as cuddling or as intentional as discussing what felt good and what didn’t. As a sex therapist, I often re

Healing after pregnancy loss takes time, tenderness, and support. You’re not alone in navigating intimacy, grief, and connection during this journey. October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, and October 15 marks Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. For many couples, this time of year invites mixed emotions. Grief, love, confusion, and hope all intermingle, especially when you’re navigating intimacy after a pregnancy loss. Because sexual connection is often

Your fantasies aren’t strange. They’re human. Nearly everyone has them, and exploring yours can be a doorway to deeper self-understanding...

Intimacy grows when we approach it with curiosity, not pressure. Sex is one of the most personal and powerful aspects of our lives—yet...

Wondering if it’s okay to fantasize about things your partner doesn’t enjoy? Learn what science says about fantasies, desire, and intimacy.

When you picture someone who owns a sex doll, what comes to mind? For some, the image is shaped by TV shows, late-night jokes, or...

As a mom and sex therapist, I share 12 sex-positive lessons I want my daughters to know—about consent, pleasure, safety, identity, and intimacy.

Tools for connection: sex toys can help couples deepen intimacy and rediscover pleasure. When couples come to see me as a sex and...

What if the pressure to have ‘perfect’ sex is the very thing standing in the way of real satisfaction? When most people talk about sex,...

It’s not easy to ask — but it can change everything. If the idea of telling your partner what you want in bed makes your stomach flip—not...

Curious about becoming sexually liberated? Learn how to reconnect with your body, release shame, and explore pleasure through a trauma-informed lens.

Ever wondered, 'Do I even have  a G-spot—and what exactly is it?' You’re not alone. Have you ever asked yourself, “What exactly is the...

Solo feels easier sometimes. That doesn’t mean something’s wrong. Trust me, It's More Common Than You Think You’re able to orgasm on your...

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